My toddler told a LIE! How could this happen?
We are in the process of potty-training my 2 year 10 month old daughter. It’s not really happening…At daycare, she does a pretty good job, but once she gets home, she has no interest in going on the potty.
I’ve gotten some advice from my friends/colleagues. One idea is to bribe her with lollipops: each time she makes poopy or pee-pee on the potty, she gets a lollipop. (I had already tried bribing her with more healthy things like books, small toys, play-doh; all to no avail….)
Okay, so we’re doing the lollipop-thing.
Last night, I tried to put her on the potty. She was dilly-dallying and resisting, and wouldn’t let me pull down her pull-up or her pants.
I told her that I was going upstairs to put my pajamas on. A few minutes later, my husband and I hear her call out: “I made pooh-pooh on the potty! I made pooh-pooh on the potty! Can I have my lollipop now?”
Well, we were in disbelief…how can she go by herself? (she uses the regular potty with her own Dora the explorer seat that goes on top.)
We came back downstairs. She had her pants on, there was no odor, there was no pooh-pooh or pee-pee in the potty. We asked her, “where is the pooh-pooh?” She told us she had already flushed the potty and that she wanted her lollipop. We said “are you really sure you made pooh-pooh on the potty? Are you telling us the truth?” She replied, “I made pooh-pooh on the potty, can I have my lollipop?” Again, we said, “really? are you sure? Why don’t you sit down on the potty and try and go?”
At that point, I think she realized that we were on to her. She raised her wrist up to her mouth and looked down (like she usually does when she’s tired, or guilty of something.)
Then, she just gave up and said, “can I watch Dora now?”
We didn’t give her a lollipop and she didn’t ask again for it. She refused to sit on the potty, but at least she didn’t make pooh-pooh in her diaper.
My husband and I looked at each other in utter disbelief and disappointment: How could our sweet, precious, adorable little girl LIE to us? We are devastated.
AN EXPERT WEIGHS IN:
Potty training is quite the adventure. But devastation no need; just think – Amalia is blessed with quite the imagination!
Many working moms have shared similar scenarios: their child seems to follow a perfect routine at daycare and when it comes time to come home… not so perfect. Why is that? (That’s a rhetorical question that this mom of 3 is still trying to figure out!)
What’s encouraging though, is that like little Charlie, Amalia isn’t trying to con you. She’s just looking for a better truth than the one she’s got.
So why the fib?
Maybe she turned to this world of make believe, to avoid disappointing mom and dad. And maybe, just maybe, the lollipop wasn’t a bad parting gift. In her imaginative mind, this was probably a brilliant plan: mom and dad are happy, and I get a treat!
But not to worry, that perfect routine from daycare will soon follow her home. In the meantime, remember to put on your best cheerleading face (not always easy to do after a long day!) and encourage that pooh-pooh to come out from hiding!
Amy Schroder, RN
Manager of Parent Education